How I went from being a people pleaser to helping hundreds of women build a life & Biz they love

Before creating  “Coaching Business Kickstart,” before coaching hundreds of awesome new female coaches (and helping them start their business and set it up to succeed)…

I was a people pleaser.

Afraid to rock the boat.

Follow what everyone else did.

My Boundaries were almost non existent 

I spun my wheels trying to do it all.

Desperate for approval.

Terrified of going out on my own and starting my coaching business no matter how many positive affirmations I said, how many meditations I zenned out in…

Thinking I was doing and following all the “right things” that all the high powered coaches said to do.

I’m Lois

I’m so glad you’re here!
I’m Lois, adventure maven (I love to travel!), book reading,  hiking and fun loving,  mindset +  success life coach for female coaches.
Basically, I create a safe place for women to talk about money, dreams  and abundance… as well as help guide them toward having their own successful coaching business
I help women, like you, identify and then release all the sabotages holding you back.
I’m really good at what I do, and I’ve helped hundreds of women completely change their relationship with money.
Are you ready to be unstoppable and take control of your dreams?

From weed pulling to enlightened

(Let me back up here a bit.)
On my journey to becoming a life coach,  I have had many jobs some paid not. The unpaid jobs began cleverly disguised as my being “a little helper.” I did household chores, which evolved, to lawn care specialist (grass cutter and weed puller.) Unpaid work was part and parcel of pulling my weight in my family.
However, I did get a cool pair of Calvin Klein jeans and a pair of powder blue cat-eye prescription glasses– so there was that.
My paid jobs were just as diverse. Once upon a time I was a health club supervisor, a waitress, a babysitter, a fast food server, a retail worker, an insurance claims adjuster, an exercise instructor, an adjunct college professor, a cable TV regional trainer, an NBA professional cheerleader, a freelance journalist, a model, author of five books, and backstage security.
Those are just the ones I can spout off the top of my head, and not necessarily in chronological order. I’ve also earned my Master’s and Bachelor’s degrees.
Yes. I’ve had some diverse life experiences. I’ve done a lot of traveling. I lived in Sweden for two years. Got married (I’m still hitched). Had four children. All the while I fit myself into the expectations of what a: Wife. Mom. Friend. Employee. Boss. Volunteer. Neighbor. Aunt. Sister-in-law. Daughter. Daughter-in-law, Sister. Niece. Granddaughter … should be.
Working tirelessly to fit in (whatever the heck “fitting in” meant). Bent and contorted myself to what I felt those societal, familial, learned or self imposed perceptions were.

The first few years were rocky… with a lot of mistakes…

Every minuscule  “win”  was coated in self-doubt, lots of sunk costs and loads of self doubt that caused middle of the night tossing and turning wondering what in the hell I was doing right or wrong.

Days, weeks and years I spent in countless courses, conferences, webinars, workshops, retreats,  without a dime to justify it (really, nothing to show for it but a depleted bank account.)

There were many “heart-to-hearts” with my hubby and friends, desperately trying to convince them that any day now I would be a success!

And lots of frustration, and a few tears (mine, not theirs.)

Starting the next “hot trend”  that promised success…

Wasted energy, money and time…. 

Missed opportunities…

So I took a hard and firm stand on what I needed to do next.

I bounced from here to there…

I bounced from here to there, trying to find where I belonged. How I fit in the world. All the while having this nagging feeling of restlessness.
Thinking there must be something more out there and somehow, someday, some way I would find it and I would no longer feel disquiet.
If I worked hard enough. Did well enough. Was “okay” enough. My yearning would be over.
I had a sinking feeling that I was one step behind of life. Somehow out of sync. Yet working myself to exhaustion to get one step ahead.
Sleepless nights. Restless thoughts. Heart aching for more. Tears welling in my eyes as I often felt actual life slipping by while I marked time with the hectic pace of my current life. The moments tucking under days then folding into years and collapsing into decades …without finding the answer out there.
Lois Lavrisa Mindset + Success Life coach I help liberate new female coaches from stuck and confusion to clarity and success

Creating a biz that thrives & helping other women succeed

Coaching Business Kickstart covers all the bases.

I created this program to help new woman coaches get out of stuck and confusion (hitting their head against the wall wondering what to do next) and start up their business to succeed.

I wanted to make sure that it had all the step by step  details that gives women the confidence to build amazing, profitable systems in their business without crippling overwhelm (trust me, I’ve been there too!)

I’ve shown new woman coach entrepreneurs not only how to do it, but also give them the tools, strategies tips and tricks to make it smooth (and almost effortless!)

I’m able to do this, because I teach what I know.

I teach what I’ve personally done to build an online business that doesn’t rely on 80 hour work weeks or a team of dozens just to keep afloat.

If you like what you’re reading and want to get started with my free online coaching business resources right away,  check out my special “Tools of the Trade”  guide to get you started.

It took me decades to realize…

That it’s not out there. It’s inside us.
Our mind.
Our heart.
Our soul.
Our gut.
Really? I had to go through all that only to discover there’s no answer ‘out there.’
It’s like Dorothy who crashed landed in Oz trying desperately to find her way back home. Looking to others. The great and powerful Oz (who, if you remember, turned out to be a rather lost soul himself).
Along. with supportive and protective friends (Lion, Tin Man and Scare Crow) she went through many trials and tribulations including having flying monkeys and a wicked witch after them. With the guidance of Glinda, the Good Witch, Dorothy discovers she had the solution with her all along.
My barriers such as fear, trying to fit in with perceived expectations, perfectionism, being a workaholic, having bouts (who am I kidding- I had it often) of severe comparisonitis, people pleasing (don’t even get me started on that) being a servant, low self esteem, fear of missing out (FOMO) to the max, becoming a martyr… were some of my flying monkeys preventing me from achieving my dream. My goals.
Living my life fully and completely.

Seriously, I was my own worst enemy…

Through years of life and vast experiences, I knew there had to be more. I began devouring self-help books, courses, podcasts, attending conferences. I dove deep in to a myriad of topics from mindset, to how to achieve your dreams, to finding your soul’s purpose, all aspects of spirituality, recovery, health (mental, physical, emotional), positive thinking, relationships, success mastery and so much more. Hundreds of them.
What kept gnawing in my gut, I could not live the same way. It no longer worked for me (actually it never quite did anyway…)
I needed to live authentically. Pursue my passions. My dreams. On my own terms. Now.
Through life experiences, learned and gained knowledge – I have found the path that I know is inside all of us. I’m sharing these life changing tools and strategies with women entrepreneurs, coaches and creatives, like you, who want to get out of stuck and confusion and find clarity and confidence to start your own 6-figure business.
Let’s swing back to the Wizard of Oz reference – consider me Glinda who will help guide you and show you the answers already in you, so you can become fully immersed in your unique, one of a kind, magnificent life.
Are you ready to be successful without sacrificing or settling?